Jesus tells us today in the Gospel, “If you forgive men their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive men, neither will your father forgive your transgressions.’
Raymond LLoyd Richmond in his book, ‘Psychology from the Heart’ writes, “To forgive someone means that you consciously make the decision to set aside any desire to see a person hurt because of the hurt he or she caused you, and instead you wish that the person will recognize his or her hurtful behavior, feel sorrow for it, and learn to be a more considerate person.
I have seen individuals, for example, who have lost a family member because of a crime. The survivors’ anger and desire for revenge poison their entire being. They so focus on what they’ve lost, and what they wanted from the dead person to be, and do, for them, that they completely miss the opportunity they’ve been given to learn about real love. Instead, they seem to believe that hatred, even to the point of capital punishment, will satisfy their thirst for vengeance and will somehow bring them healing.
So with hardened hearts and stiff lips, they say, ‘I’ll never forgive.’And the sad thing is that in wishing to send someone to hell they end up sending themselves there as well. Think about that. In effect, to tell someone to go to hell-to matter what language you say it in- is to send yourself there as well.”
There are only two things that we are allowed to hate. That is the devil and sin. We are never allowed to hate a person. Why is that? The answer is that when we hate a person we become what we hate.
Thought for the day: Who do I need to to forgive today? Jesus tells us that this forgiveness must be real.
There are 3 types of people in the world. Those who forgive easily. Those who take time to forgive, but they are trying and will eventually get there. Those who will never forgive. It is to those in this last group that Jesus addresses these words, “If you forgive men their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive men, neither will your father forgive your transgressions.”